Friday, April 12, 2013

RIP Ian Crewe
Bren Brown and Ian Crewe
I have just heard that a good decent friend died on Saturday, horribly, sadly. He was honest, and funny. One of the good ones on this earth. He was an amputee from a car accident in the 80's and went on to develop Addison s disease soon after. It is a horrible disease which usually only those who have it and very few enlightened medical people truly understand. Because of this Ian suffered often when he needed to go to hospital - like many who suffer deeply, he seldom complained and even on the very bad days was always ready with something funny to tell. Unlike so many he was although not always coping well himself ready to help out in any way he could. I shall miss deeply our regular phone calls and the many subjects we covered. I shall miss knowing his view about what things amused him in my old home town. Although he died alone and was not found for a while - I know from what my husband told me shortly before his own death that nobody on this earth dies alone. Someone who loves them is there with them to ease the terror. Goodbye Ian, hopefully there is no more pain for you only light around you. Bren his good  friend found Ian sadly passed away on the bathroom floor - hours after he had died - she herself had been in Hospital and just returned. I got to know Ian and Bren after I published my book Without Due care - he rang me as he had seen the add in the paper but he was really unwell so i bought it around to him. From Wales - he had a rich Celtic humour. Ian died horrible sadly - and I had trouble getting control of myself . He was one of the good ones on this planet. I visited Ian and Bren in December when I was home and am so glad I did - I was made so welcome. He took such pride showing me the view over the canals from their place - a place sadly Bren has to leave now as she on her own cannot afford the rent. A wonderful man. A good friend and one of a kind.

Today it is 6 years to the day of when the butchers who were Don's doctors botched their surgery on him  - and sent him on the path five weeks later to another horrible death. The synchronicity of these two events is sad to consider

6 comments:

Andrew said...

Sad tale and very sad for Bren. Sometimes I wonder if it would not be easier to deal with suffering if the person complained all the time. Maybe not, but some people certainly earn the right.

Middle Child said...

He was an amazing man. He had worked when the the National Safety Council was in Vic as one of the team - did formation parachuting - some scary stuff - worked on a big yacht (like the replica Endeavour) climbing the rigging etc and this was after he had had his leg amputated above the knee (car accident) The Addisons came along as it sometimes does out of the trauma and shock of the accident - the adrenals just are too overworked etc Found out this morning he had been born with a rare heart defect which no one knew about - and usually kills people before 60 - would have been sixty in three weeks - sort of glad he didn't know in a way

FoxyMoron said...

I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. Very sad, and way too young.

STAG said...

Thank you for these blog entries.

They give me much to consider.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for sharing this. I stumbled upon this site after hearing recently of his passing, and trying to find out more.

I knew Ian well although hadn't seen him in a number of years and knew he was unwell. He was a close friend of my father's for a long time and i remember as a young child being amazed by his stories of parachute training with the NSCA.

I am sorry to hear of his passing, but glad he is at peace. A kind, genuine soul with a big heart and wicked sense of humour.

Rest in peace Ian.

Middle Child said...

Hello Anonymous - I am able to contact Ian's ex wife - they were very good friends and she lived in Port Macquarie too. His eldest son is in early 20's and is a wonderful man...Ian was proud of him - Ian showed me the photos of the various adventures - he was a good and decent man and very funny...