Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Breaking the silence over genital mutilation horror - ABC news report


MULTICULTURALISM IN ACTION – FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION RAMPANT IN AUSTRALIA - Why are people not jumping up and down about this dreadful child abuse? This is disgusting.

Across the nation, young girls are being mutilated in a brutal and barbaric religious practice that most Australians struggle to comprehend.
More than 120,000 migrant women in Australia have suffered genital mutilation - a brutal religious practice common in Islamic populations in Africa, South America, parts of Asia and the Middle East.
There is no data held on how widespread female genital mutilation is in Australia, but 7.30 has spoken to women who are voicing their concerns despite the fear of rejection from their Communities.
The genital mutilation is carried out by women on girls between the age of four and 10.
It is a crime in Australia and is not sanctioned by the Koran; nonetheless, it is happening behind closed doors.
7:30 understands the women chosen to do the cutting often do not have any medical qualifications, with the procedures being carried out in people's homes using crude surgical implements.
The procedure can range from a small cut to a girl's clitoris to the entire removal of the genitals.
In extreme cases the wound is sewn up to leave only one opening - the size of a matchstick - for urination and menstruation.
'Clandestine practice'
The reality is that they are not qualified at all. These are women from a village who have migrated to Australia and have access to a razor blade and are considered to be elder or wise person in their community.
Imam Afroz Ali, one religious leader prepared to break the silence, says female genital mutilation is a "clandestine practice".
"I have had people mention it has happened to themselves, it's happened to members of their family or they are aware this is happening in Australia," he said.
It is also common for the women doing the cutting to charge a fee for their services.
"The figure could be around $2,000 to $3,000... the reality is that they are not qualified at all," Mr Ali said.
"These are women from a village who have migrated to Australia and have access to a razor blade and are considered to be an elder or wise person in their community."
Zarine, who moved to Australia six years ago, comes from a Muslim sect known as the Dawoodi Bohras, who originate in India.
In India, female genital mutilation is called traditional cutting.
Zarine was five when her grandmother told her they were going to the market. Instead, she was taken to a house where she was pinned down and mutilated.
"There were about three other women there - they were sitting and chatting. They were from the same community because they were speaking the same language," she said.
"They asked me to take my underwear off ... I just wanted to run out of there. I knew there was something going to happen to me.
I don't remember seeing anything but after that I felt a very sharp pain. I still remember that. I still remember that pain.
Mutilation charges
Five weeks ago, New South Wales police arrested and charged eight people with the alleged genital mutilation of two girls in Sydney and Wollongong in the past 18 months.
The arrests followed an anonymous tip to the office of the NSW Child Protection Minister, Pru Goward.
"The secrecy which with this is carried out makes it very difficult for police to collect evidence," Ms Goward said.
"It is unlikely that this is an isolated incident."
The eight people arrested all belong to the Dawoodi Bohra community in New South Wales.
The identities of all those arrested have been suppressed except for one - Kubra Magennis, a 68-year-old retired nurse.
There are fears the practice of female genital mutilation spreads much wider than this one case suggests.
In September, West Australian police arrested and charged a couple with female genital mutilation after they allegedly took their daughter to Bali for a traditional cutting ceremony.
7:30 has also been told that girls are being mutilated in the town of Katanning, 200 kilometres south of Perth, home to a large Malaysian Muslim population.
When they tell their story it's heartbreaking. These women have been through an experience that we can't even imagine.
Transforming lives
At the Royal Women's Hospital in Melbourne, a discreet clinic is transforming lives by reversing extreme forms of female genital mutilation.
The clinic sees around 25 women every month.
Through family planning officers like Zeinab Muhamed, the broader aim in Victoria is to break the cycle of mothers subjecting their daughters to the procedure.
People tell Ms Muhamed that female genital mutilation is a cultural practice that is hard to move away from.
They say it is women who are pushing it.
"When they tell their story, it's heartbreaking. These women have been through an experience that we can't even imagine," Ms Muhamed said.
"They spend days after the procedure when they can hardly urinate.
Their legs may have been tied together so the labia actually fuses together."
'Torture'
One woman who spoke to 7.30, Samira, has been surgically reopened.
She says women in Victoria are being stitched closed again after they have given birth even though it is a criminal offence.
Samira says female genital mutilation is "torture".
I think that a lot of people would still like to do it ... they've been brainwashed by their families [who say] 'it's good for you, it's important, it's part of our culture'.
"I was told whether I wanted to be stitched back up or not and I refused, and [my midwife] said some women insist on being stitched back, so I was quite surprised," she said.
Samira is strongly against the cutting of young girls but says not everyone in her community agrees.
"I think that a lot of people would still like to do it... they've been brainwashed by their families [who say] 'it's good for you, it's important, it's part of our culture'," she said.
"It all depends on the culture, the family, the religion background.
"It's very sensitive and it's hard, but you can't convince everybody to [think like you do]."MULTICULTURALISM IN ACTION – FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION RAMPANT IN AUSTRALIA
Across the nation, young girls are being mutilated in a brutal and barbaric religious practice that most Australians struggle to comprehend.
More than 120,000 migrant women in Australia have suffered genital mutilation - a brutal religious practice common in Islamic populations in Africa, South America, parts of Asia and the Middle East.
There is no data held on how widespread female genital mutilation is in Australia, but 7.30 has spoken to women who are voicing their concerns despite the fear of rejection from their Communities.
The genital mutilation is carried out by women on girls between the age of four and 10.
It is a crime in Australia and is not sanctioned by the Koran; nonetheless, it is happening behind closed doors.
7:30 understands the women chosen to do the cutting often do not have any medical qualifications, with the procedures being carried out in people's homes using crude surgical implements.
The procedure can range from a small cut to a girl's clitoris to the entire removal of the genitals.
In extreme cases the wound is sewn up to leave only one opening - the size of a matchstick - for urination and menstruation.
'Clandestine practice'
The reality is that they are not qualified at all. These are women from a village who have migrated to Australia and have access to a razor blade and are considered to be elder or wise person in their community.
Imam Afroz Ali, one religious leader prepared to break the silence, says female genital mutilation is a "clandestine practice".
"I have had people mention it has happened to themselves, it's happened to members of their family or they are aware this is happening in Australia," he said.
It is also common for the women doing the cutting to charge a fee for their services.
"The figure could be around $2,000 to $3,000... the reality is that they are not qualified at all," Mr Ali said.
"These are women from a village who have migrated to Australia and have access to a razor blade and are considered to be an elder or wise person in their community."
Zarine, who moved to Australia six years ago, comes from a Muslim sect known as the Dawoodi Bohras, who originate in India.
In India, female genital mutilation is called traditional cutting.
Zarine was five when her grandmother told her they were going to the market. Instead, she was taken to a house where she was pinned down and mutilated.
"There were about three other women there - they were sitting and chatting. They were from the same community because they were speaking the same language," she said.
"They asked me to take my underwear off ... I just wanted to run out of there. I knew there was something going to happen to me.
I don't remember seeing anything but after that I felt a very sharp pain. I still remember that. I still remember that pain.
Mutilation charges
Five weeks ago, New South Wales police arrested and charged eight people with the alleged genital mutilation of two girls in Sydney and Wollongong in the past 18 months.
The arrests followed an anonymous tip to the office of the NSW Child Protection Minister, Pru Goward.
"The secrecy which with this is carried out makes it very difficult for police to collect evidence," Ms Goward said.
"It is unlikely that this is an isolated incident."
The eight people arrested all belong to the Dawoodi Bohra community in New South Wales.
The identities of all those arrested have been suppressed except for one - Kubra Magennis, a 68-year-old retired nurse.
There are fears the practice of female genital mutilation spreads much wider than this one case suggests.
In September, West Australian police arrested and charged a couple with female genital mutilation after they allegedly took their daughter to Bali for a traditional cutting ceremony.
7:30 has also been told that girls are being mutilated in the town of Katanning, 200 kilometres south of Perth, home to a large Malaysian Muslim population.
When they tell their story it's heartbreaking. These women have been through an experience that we can't even imagine.
Transforming lives
At the Royal Women's Hospital in Melbourne, a discreet clinic is transforming lives by reversing extreme forms of female genital mutilation.
The clinic sees around 25 women every month.
Through family planning officers like Zeinab Muhamed, the broader aim in Victoria is to break the cycle of mothers subjecting their daughters to the procedure.
People tell Ms Muhamed that female genital mutilation is a cultural practice that is hard to move away from.
They say it is women who are pushing it.
"When they tell their story, it's heartbreaking. These women have been through an experience that we can't even imagine," Ms Muhamed said.
"They spend days after the procedure when they can hardly urinate.
Their legs may have been tied together so the labia actually fuses together."
'Torture'
One woman who spoke to 7.30, Samira, has been surgically reopened.
She says women in Victoria are being stitched closed again after they have given birth even though it is a criminal offence.
Samira says female genital mutilation is "torture".
I think that a lot of people would still like to do it ... they've been brainwashed by their families [who say] 'it's good for you, it's important, it's part of our culture'.
"I was told whether I wanted to be stitched back up or not and I refused, and [my midwife] said some women insist on being stitched back, so I was quite surprised," she said.
Samira is strongly against the cutting of young girls but says not everyone in her community agrees.
"I think that a lot of people would still like to do it... they've been brainwashed by their families [who say] 'it's good for you, it's important, it's part of our culture'," she said.
"It all depends on the culture, the family, the religion background.
"It's very sensitive and it's hard, but you can't convince everybody to [think like you do]."

Friday, October 19, 2012

Mowing


A day well spent today. And to top it off I defeated (yes) the grass in the back yard which has grown lush and quickly - my push mower (I supply the energy) didn't cope too well with the long grass...but I persevered and now I can smell that wonderful smell after you mow... ( the photo was taken a very long time ago but the mower style is the same) but a bit too tired to cook tea so am eyeing off a banana, some almonds, a tomato and maybe a little yoghurt for a thrill... apart from greens its nearly all the food groups. Mentioned this sort of tea when i was at Tafe the other day and all the young girls went "Ooh! Ahh! - how lucky you are not to have to cook dinner!" I just said back - "I'm nearly 60, been doing this 7 days a week  since I was 18 - done my time girls" - but sometimes it would be wonderful to be back there doing it and having Tea with others..although on a beautiful warm evening like today - its nice just to kick back, walk barefoot in the cut grass, and take the time just to see how beautiful it can all be when I take the time out to notice. Its at times like this that I feel close to what's really important and real...you know "life the Universe and Everything" - to Mum and Dad and the old people and ways that were so kind to a child like me... to a sister or two who was there when I was walking out in life and who remains there by me - solid and constant - to friends who made me laugh, to my wonderful Don who once said to me to never look down when I was walking... he said "Hold your head up and look straight at people, you have no reason to look down" What a man. I look right at people now and so much eye contact can be exhausting but so often there is a little smile or a nod, or especially special is when a toddler pulls a face at me just for fun...and to my two lovely daughters - what can i say here? They are inside my heart and I am inside theirs and it is wonderful to be so connected with two of the sanest most commonsensical people. I have been so lucky in the draw of life...it may not seem like this at times - so many, too many deaths way too young, sicknesses of those I loved, suffering, Not a lot of folk in our family seem to make old age - but life is precious and valued...and there has and is so much compassion -
I like people mainly except for the idjits!!! And hopefully they know who they are and keep well away from me... of else! And I admit to many laughs when Julia fell flat on her face - done the same but the world wasn't my witness - and I had to crawl up all by myself - so she's done well many hands to help -

Just a thought train or three -time to go for that banana (Aussie grown of course) and the Almonds (Aussie as well) - time to get back to doing my Taxes which I began only this arvo - and I have to admit I am loving the weather down here near Melbourne - the evenings are so long and light...its like having so much extra time in the day to be outside and watch the sky, feel the breeze and notice the changes around me.

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Beautiful day today

Melissa and Chris near Hawkesbury River at Windsor NSW
Have been away  and the month has just flown... Its been a full time...Both our daughters had their birthdays and I went up to Windsor NSW to visit Melissa and Chris. I realise how lucky I am because my kids actually seem to like my company and want to see me...  and its easy - there are no undercurrents or falseness ..thats a real treasure I know when i hear others talking about their grown up family.
seconds before this crazy cat escaped in a flurry of fur and claws
Up at Bilipin NSW - a wonderful day with my eldest
I am back at Tafe now and along with other things I am finding myself exhausted... some issues with Adrenal fatigue which I am dealing with  - it had to happen after the stress of the preceding years - I have a good doc who as well practices along with allopathic medicine - traditional medicine - so have the best person to deal with things...just miss my amazing energy levels from before...I read back here and see how much I would write, and as well I wrote stories and poems  painted etc etc - but now I realise I am just basically doing what i have to do - basically since I moved here. Basically "you don't know what you've got till its gone" but for me luckily its only temporary. One thing I have known for decades especially as Don suffered so much "health is all"...
Its a most beautiful light sunny Spring day here today...everything looks freshly washed...flowers everywhere and so many birds in the trees outside its just so wonderful. Just to be here, and okay on this beautiful day is good enough for me. I realise today that I need nothing more than what I have right at this moment. I have wonderful kids and great memories of my lovely Don... was raised by parents whop were in love and who treated us kindly... my cats are sleeping in the sun and a light gentle breeze is blowing through my house... Hope all of you feel as at peace as I do today...Just thought to say so.

Melissa on her birthday




Ali and Andrew on her birthday


Andrew's second cake in his whole life - a beauty
Ali ready for the bog blow out

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Wednesday, September 19, 2012

the cake

Happy birthday cake for my big sister... (ahem)
I haven't posted here for a while...I had my eldest sister staying with me for about 2 weeks and we just enjoyed each other's company...both exhausted...a little too many Drambuies in the evenings...
The Cake had to be gluten free for my daughter and her husband...
so just made the one layer as thats all the cake I had

 
Looking pretty good right now...so far
I can cook up a big storm re vegies etc but cakes are not my forte -
its basic but "there
Till as I watched the happy birthday writing and other decos started sliding
 towards the edges of the cake... see how sad I look.
But a little pink bubbly applied by our youngest
and soon the cake ceased to matter that much
it gor even worse when the candles were lit...some of the flower decos slid right off the cake...
I had to keep putting them back on
Its a wild bit of gear here...
Foxy moron I am sure your family wouldn't even feed this to the dogs
My sister was amazed at my artistry
and once the smoke cleared,
 the cake was cut and it tasted beautiful and thats the main thing!

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Sunday, September 02, 2012

Fathers Day!
All the fathers I could find photos of ...all of these bar one are the direct ancestors of Melissa and Alison...one or two were a bit racy but in the whole were decent and luckily for us all kind people...Luckily I have been told the stories of all of these people and one day will get it all down...but am off to the airport to pick up my sister who is flying down from Brisbane as I type this.
A happy Fathers Day to all the fathers past present and future.
Thomas Spencer 1816-1888 born Avoca Wicklow Ireland emigrated on the "China" 1841. my  grt grt grandfather (paternal)


Edward Spencer 1885-1939 my paternal grandfather

My dad not too long before he was married to mum 1919-1969

Great Grandfather Matthew 1843-1910and Emma Spencer (Walker)


Thomas McGoldrick Mum's father 1886-1963
My lovely Don 1950-2007
Dad died 1949

Donald Mackay Don's grandfather no details
Rod Mackay Don's dad 1921- 1967

Jack Holmes Don's sister Jeanette's husband  1942-1969 he, Jeanette baby Phillip and unborn baby all killed by a drunk driver

Don's maternal grandfather William Gregg no details




Thomas mum's father

Timothy Flanagan 1861-1940 Mum's maternal grandfather

Thomas McGoldrick snr 1850-1913

Friday, August 24, 2012

Traded in my VW van today...

I haven't been on here all that much of late...just needed a bit if a break, but I feel more like it now...I think I was just going through something where it was simpler and easier to get up on Facebook...whereas it takes more effort in here but as with many of us who have been here for a while the effort is worth it.


Don and I in about 1987 you can see our VW  - green in the background)
Don and I bought a VW Microbus in 1982 - we had ii till 2003 but in all those years it was unable to be air-conditioned because the motor was just not strong enough. This was a disaster often for us in extreme hot weather as Don had no internal body temperature control (peculiar to Quadriplegia) and more than once we came close to having to go to hospital because he got overheated inside the Van. So in 2003 we bought a 2nd hand VW transporter van...it had belonged to Ann and Dennis Hill (http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0384187/) and (http://ctva.biz/Aus/Skippy1966.htm) Dennis was the producer and director and from what the paperwork which we were given when we bought the van of Skippy...Yes we had a Skippy van! It was a good van but when it did break down it was always $1000...and we had many issues with it. But since I moved to Melbourne I have spent $4000 at least on repairs so thought to sell it... I have never liked driving little cars but surprised even myself by this...trade in buy
the Skippy van

Ali and i with the 2008 Nissan

posing

then i noticed a spot!!!

think the kids wanted to leave after that!
So I bought on trade in of only $4500 of my van a Nissan X trail - yes a 4wd...like those snotty Toorak mums who would rather run  me over than go around...because "yes" they do own the road... But its 1 litre per 100 kms and it goes and after trade in it was $13,500 so have to pay it off...but I got a bit sick of getting towed by RACV and NRMA before them...I will as normal have it for a decade at least... or who knows if it gives no trouble it may even see me out!

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Pretty dramatic trip to college this morning...the VW van has been making a lot of noise and had it booked in to get fixed on Thursday... I noticed people pointing to me on the drive down and there was a lot of smoke coming out from underneath...lucky I could get of the busy road...there was an acrid burning smell and thought at first it might be on fire but it was just smoke...lucky I am in the RACV...but an hour of standing in the freezing wind seemed to take a while...its at the mechanics now and as soon as fixed it will be traded in ...it has cost me way too much this year and it never seems to end... I am a bit fond of it but sick of breaking down...hasn't been he same since the VW people down here mucked with it in December - had to go onto Tafe as I am already behind from being away...caught up pretty well today but can't afford to lose any more time... I guess they will tell me soon enough the bad news but feel its going to be pretty big - was a lot of smoke.

Sunday, August 12, 2012

Home

Back Home and the cats are still talking to me amazingly. I arrived back here late Friday. I had a wonderful time visiting my daughter - I am lucky as our girls are my best friends as well and am always so relaxed with them and they seem to like me being there. As well I got to meet up with the two best friends from high school. We hadn't all been together for 41 years and it was as if there had been no time in between. We laughed and gossiped for hours...it was wonderful. One lost her husband when he died suddenly at 42, then a few years after that she had breast cancer. Other things which are private and yet she is still the same...has the same heart. I believe you do have a choice, no matter what happens...you can choose to not become bitter and a misery to those around you, or you can choose to grieve but still to be a happy person. When I got home and picked the cats up they were a bit unfriendly as it had been two weeks in the slammer for them...but now back to the normal walking on the keyboard and sitting on the mouse and router at the wrong time...


Melissa and another Handbag

Gwen and Pam two schoolfriends



Enjoying the sun and being waited upon

Monday, August 06, 2012

Early photos of my holiday
Joan and Veronica climbing up the fire escape on a pub  which shall remain nameless


Veronica and Joan...shockers in the morning
and again

Joan, Me and Veronica



Joan Me and Veronica

A devil of a person
looking very suspiciously at our eldest sister who had more vanilla bean ice cream than  us


Saturday, July 28, 2012

Off to Brissie and Sydney for a couple of weeks - more regular posting when I return - its been a very busy couple of weeks - will miss my little place but I am looking forward to seeing my sisters and other daughter.