Sunday, January 18, 2009

Last week I stayed with my youngest daughter Alison in Melbourne (Australia)
This lovely g
irl has suffered illnesses that I am not sure I would withstand. Not long after her dad (my Don) died, she seemed t turn the corner but will have t have injections of Vitamin B 12 every three days for the rest of her life, amongst other things she takes just to be able to be okay....
She was sick, very sick all through her 20's which were basically lost to her, We spoke about this while I was there and a few tears were shed. She is an amazing person, and has a lot of her dad in her...which she happily admits.
She is kind, wise and true. She also does not take any prisoners of people who are unworthy of her trust and I like this about her.
This last week she was so good to me. I had two appointments with a varicose vein specialist who did sessions needling the most bulbous and dangerous of my varicose veins.



She drove me there and looked after me as I painfully and slowly hauled myself where I needed to be with many curses.

I was given cups of tea... cooked dinner and basically taken care of. I burst out crying more than once and explained to Alison that it was the kindness that made me cry. I am not used to anyone doing this sort of stuff for me.

Kindness brings me u
ndone. I still think of my kids as my kids...but they are adults now in their thirties...and they are kind in an adult way...this is hard to comprehend... but also it is nice to consider.

18 comments:

FoxyMoron said...

I wish I had known Therese.

And kindness also brings me undone. Be mean to me and I'll spit, but the smallest little kindness makes me blubber. Wonder why?
Your Ali reminds me of my Ali, both have a strength and loveliness in their eyes.

Random Thinker said...

That's when you know you've done a good job as a parent, when you happen to notice them as adult, independent people instead of looking at them through the Mom glasses and you really like what you see.

Mom said...

You are blessed.

Sling said...

Well,they learned from example didn't they..You done good Therese!
I know Don is proud of them as well.

rosemary said...

I agree with sling.....you taught them well. You can expect more kindness from them.

Eternally Curious said...

This is a very good post on so many levels. It warms the heart in so many ways. Sounds odd, but I am so grateful that you and your daughters are so close.

Citymouse said...

I can only echo what others have said --- you and Don have taught well.

MeHereNow said...

The way your daughters are with you,and each other,is a photocopy of how you,and your Don,were with them.

'Truly the most sincere form of compliment is indeed imitation'.

cs said...

what a gem...a true diamond...how very very blessed you are...oh MC...such a beautiful pair of girls you have...

Middle Child said...

Foxymoron...We were in town Wednesday and friday...just blocks away...on the other two days i had my varicose veins done...

Random Thinker...its odd at times...I still see them at 2 and 10, 15 and 20...now they are in their 30's...they give back so much...as it should be

Mom , I am blessed...I know that.

Sling...their teens were hard going as they had sparky eyes and so many times I thought they wouldn't survive...but God was kind and they did...couldn't do the teen years ever ever again...Don was proud, of them, of me and I of him.

Rosemary thanks so much.

Ec...thank you I think I know what you mean. Some of us have been "in touch" for a while online and you do begin to care...that has to be a good thing.

CM and we were rank amateurs, read no books just flew by the seat of our pants...scary at times.

Meherenow... i think I am going to cry...as said kindness makes me cry...thank you.

CS they are beautiful but more importantly they are beautiful in spirit...that the most important.

JahTeh said...

Therese, why didn't you email? I would have loved to help you and meet you. *Grumble grumble independent women grumble*

good word verification - bistump

Mal's Team Gherkin said...

That's beautiful :)

caroline said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog. You have a beautiful daughter...sorry to hear that she is so sick, but if the injections help her that's great.

I will check out your blog from time to time if you don't mind...and thanks for your comment. But I am keeping my cold...I hate the heat.

Ann oDyne said...

Hi Therese - damn and drat we would have gone to a lot of effort to meet you if we had known you were near.
Wishing you a speedy recovery
X X X

Middle Child said...

Jahteh...I even forgot to cancel my mail and papers...(out of towners like their papers) I was so not looking forward to having my great big bulbous varicose veins Needled...arrrgghh. I will be down again 22nd fen till about 27thFeb to get the next lot done...my daughter I know wouldn't mind driving me somewhere...I'll give the ph no when it gets closer...

Middle Child said...

Mal thank you

caroline she is no where as sick as she was...which is a blessing...nowdays her life is reasonably normal as long as she keeps the injections and supplememnts up... She is so brave and funny...I hope she becines a little old 99 year old lady bossing all around...

Ann O dyne next time i will let you know ...sorry..wasn't looking forward to the varicose vein needled and sulphuric acid they pumped into them..the first of three goes at making my circulation work...

R.H. said...

Rarely lost for words, but I am lost: that girl is beautiful.

-Robert.

Middle Child said...

RH and she actually is beautiful in the most important way for a mum...my two closest friends are our daughters