Was
it a dream? Don’t think so – it was more real than real. In the early dawn
hours I was “asleep” but aware – in the half waking state.. From nowhere within
the dream I was having – Don was there. A gentle but solid touch nose to nose.
Then one kiss – not sexual but sensual – a life-time love kiss – Then again nose to nose
and another just the same. I could feel warmth, and skin and was hyper aware. I
lent in again nose to nose – the touch and then expecting lips that weren’t there
I fell back into reality with a grief that knows no bounds but as well I felt
as if I had been honoured and gifted.
Like the dream I
had one night a few years ago when I was in that same hyper aware state and I
heard him call my name twice. I turned around physically and could see no one
but had no doubts that something wonderful had happened.
I
don’t go looking because I believe we must leave things as they are – but sometimes
there is so much love that I believe in the middle of grief that will not ease –
we are given a touch, a sound, a light inside our hearts –
And
now its a grey autumn afternoon – my favourite time of year. Its not all that
cool yet, but I feel as if something has awakened in me as it usually does at
this time of the year. I feel that emotionally I have been asleep for a very
long time – as if I have been wasting my life – a life I am lucky to have
shouldn’t be wasted.
Sometimes
in very human moments I wonder what Don would think of me as I grow older – as I
develop more flaws and bad habits? Of late at times for the first time in our
lives together I have been questioning my own worth – but Autumn has rolled
around again and once again time for some honest thinking and to be a bit
kinder to myself. I think I got a little push this morning and glad so. Unsure
if any one else has felt a loved one very close in what is more than a dream –
I think Foxymoron has with her little baby Sarah – I did after Dad was killed
and then Mum – What happened this morning felt holy – in a way – as if there
are angels or something loving out there that allows us to have these wonderful
and rare moments.
It has left me very emotional - feeling that slam of reality that you think is gone as you puddle along in your daily life - then it hits you hard enough to just about knock you flat for a while. You go through it and go on with life - I think it actually keeps you sane as hard as it seems on these sorts of days. Works for me.
Any one who has felt close grief knows this for a fact but sometimes I wish I didn't know.
My niece said at the eulogy when her father Bruce was killed "There will be no more new memories" and I felt so sad for her knowing what it is like to lose your Dad young...I just thought when I went hunting for photos - "There will be no more new photos" Lucky I have so many. But for my niece - maybe there will be new memories rare as they are - I have dreamt of my dad and it was as if he was in the room with me. He was killed when I was 15 but in the dream I was trying to get him to stay with me till the kids came home because I wanted him to meet them, and he said, "I already know them." In a dream I have driven our old green van up to her standing on the footpath and offered her a life, when she answered 'Its okay, I don't need a lift any more" and others.
Some would say its what we want to hear - and use psychology/ science to explain life the universe and everything away. I think I have a bit too much of the Aussie/Celt in me to settle for something as clinical and stale as that. There definitely is something and it is a force for good - call it what you will -
My niece said at the eulogy when her father Bruce was killed "There will be no more new memories" and I felt so sad for her knowing what it is like to lose your Dad young...I just thought when I went hunting for photos - "There will be no more new photos" Lucky I have so many. But for my niece - maybe there will be new memories rare as they are - I have dreamt of my dad and it was as if he was in the room with me. He was killed when I was 15 but in the dream I was trying to get him to stay with me till the kids came home because I wanted him to meet them, and he said, "I already know them." In a dream I have driven our old green van up to her standing on the footpath and offered her a life, when she answered 'Its okay, I don't need a lift any more" and others.
Some would say its what we want to hear - and use psychology/ science to explain life the universe and everything away. I think I have a bit too much of the Aussie/Celt in me to settle for something as clinical and stale as that. There definitely is something and it is a force for good - call it what you will -





