tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post7078109902030926722..comments2023-11-01T02:06:39.543+11:00Comments on Ella's child - family stories and other: Middle Childhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09962830669606760640noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-68315539208098556492008-10-27T13:15:00.000+11:002008-10-27T13:15:00.000+11:00rosemary - maybe I am just a big sook who knows?Ec...rosemary - maybe I am just a big sook who knows?<BR/><BR/>Ec my thoughts are with you and I hope for you that you gets some ease soon<BR/><BR/>meherenow - why thank you<BR/><BR/>sara one problem with the weeding hereabouts lately sara is that nature has become a little too friendly and I have to do some aversion therapy for all the redbellied black snakes hereabouts and jumping ants...for which I seem to have begun a small allergic reaction - not good - weeding in winter is great.Middle Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09962830669606760640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-81591325868598350842008-10-26T11:31:00.000+11:002008-10-26T11:31:00.000+11:00Weeding, I've found, is about some of the best the...Weeding, I've found, is about some of the best therapy around. And sorry, but there's almost nothing more annoying than someone who insists you be happy, when you just want to grump a bit. You're entitled to grump all you please and don't you worry about your guest feeling put off.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17841184951628259482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-85585146312537766022008-10-26T02:30:00.000+11:002008-10-26T02:30:00.000+11:00((big big hugs))no words just lots of hugs from me...((big big hugs))<BR/><BR/><BR/>no words just lots of hugs from me to youMeHereNowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18204649435809092524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-50431650873879255862008-10-25T01:20:00.000+11:002008-10-25T01:20:00.000+11:00Oh MC! You keep writing. And painting, and weedi...Oh MC! You keep writing. And painting, and weeding, and walking, and pursuing. But most of all, you keep those girls of yours close at all times. Be together, be a family. Talk. Look at photos. Remember. And fight together. Our situations are so different, yours and mine. But so similar too. But the one thing that cuts me deeper than anything is being sans family support thru all of it. If it wasn't for my friends and blogfriends, I'd give up the ghost for certain. So please, shut out people if you must. Without a doubt. But gather those you consider family tightly around you and hold them tenderly. Always.Pathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03435819346686981766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-84880524650901856952008-10-24T13:45:00.000+11:002008-10-24T13:45:00.000+11:00therese: every time you write about don, your pai...therese: every time you write about don, your pain is palpable. hopefully, someday, you will have the justice you so deserve and that don was denied.rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03300107116527320425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-25128617492264469332008-10-24T08:32:00.000+11:002008-10-24T08:32:00.000+11:00ann o dyne - allw some eccentricity you say ahem! ...ann o dyne - allw some eccentricity you say ahem! I think I have a fair smattering of that already , thanks re the painting will do.<BR/><BR/>Jahteh - thanks - it feels like there is an ocean of unshed tears inside and that I will cry forever and sometimes I wish I could have the luxury of doing this for days - but as with foxymoron above and with you there is one loss I think I would't survive so my hats off to the two of you...but then survival - there isn't really a choice - its just day by dayMiddle Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09962830669606760640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-42748734930014091522008-10-24T08:28:00.000+11:002008-10-24T08:28:00.000+11:00ann - re your sister's husband - she may want desp...ann - re your sister's husband - she may want desparately to talk - well more to be heard an nauseum - she may want you to share looking at photos or in my case I desparately want to look at some funny old home videos with someone - my sister and no body wants to because they think they'll get upset... for me they are happy memories and I can and have watched them and felt uplifted - can't understand why its so hard for my sister to not be able to share this - ah well it takes all sorts to make a world as mum always saidMiddle Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09962830669606760640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-56383948828671154962008-10-24T08:25:00.000+11:002008-10-24T08:25:00.000+11:00JIn - thanks for the hugs...and all...Cazzie - you...JIn - thanks for the hugs...and all...<BR/><BR/>Cazzie - you're a good old (not so old) stick...and being a nurse you would know just how unacceptable RNSH's practices were - thanks<BR/><BR/>mom - thanks. Sorry it was hard to read - it wasn't hard to write it just poured out...Middle Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09962830669606760640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-55600736714156520502008-10-24T08:22:00.000+11:002008-10-24T08:22:00.000+11:00Foxymoron - I hope I am never called upon to have ...Foxymoron - I hope I am never called upon to have the sort of grief which comes with losing a child... For me iots not the death so much, but the manner of it and the cruelty - I have deep trouble over this...writing is a therapy but it also gets the issues out and in this case aired as they need to be. Re your Sarah my thoughts are with you as wellMiddle Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09962830669606760640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-62424259673298757182008-10-24T00:33:00.000+11:002008-10-24T00:33:00.000+11:00You are still working your way through grief and p...You are still working your way through grief and part of grief is depression. Don't be happy just for a friend, tell her that you can't pretend but that it comes and goes. Annie O and I should be there with you to let you cry on our shoulders and then it would be our turn for the crying. Together we could break the drought.JahTehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02007730071564639411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-74164548151693162762008-10-23T23:32:00.000+11:002008-10-23T23:32:00.000+11:00I say Amen to all above.'no time-frame', and fling...I say Amen to all above.<BR/><BR/>'no time-frame', and fling yourself into painting.<BR/>It will take you a while to learn to live just for yourself, since you've never been able to do that till now.<BR/>allow yourself some eccentricity!<BR/>X X XAnn ODynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01159263330547329077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-43700486352922560802008-10-23T18:38:00.000+11:002008-10-23T18:38:00.000+11:00You've gone through so much. I dealt with very tr...You've gone through so much. I dealt with very traumatic deaths of both parents, but that can almost be expected (the deaths - not the trauma). So hard to deal with the passing of your soul mate and especially under such circumstances. <BR/><BR/>Writing I hope is theraputic for you, getting out those thoughts.<BR/><BR/>I can relate just a little how you are feeling, my sister's husband died aged 49 so I've "tried" to be there for her. By saying tried, I really have been there but so hard to know what to say, how to support etc.<BR/><BR/>Take care:-)Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17886198661034264422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-83255402419154878662008-10-23T12:04:00.000+11:002008-10-23T12:04:00.000+11:00I'm sending big hugs around the world to reach you...I'm sending big hugs around the world to reach you.<BR/>This wass painful to read. I know the pain you feel is intense. You lost a wonderful man and saw him suffer needlessly. You may one day learn to live with this loss, but you will never get over it. Just go with the flow and be easy on yourself.Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15708010694158542241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-3882201830360954872008-10-23T07:57:00.000+11:002008-10-23T07:57:00.000+11:00I have to agree, twilight is just lovely, and well...I have to agree, twilight is just lovely, and well, ought to change the name of my blog now I said that! LOL<BR/> I think of you often Therese, and I want you to know you have support... hard to fathom when we have not even met in person, but it is true.<BR/> Don was ever so lucky to have had you in his life, and he in yours too. Huggs :)Cazzie!!!https://www.blogger.com/profile/13856029137337148466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-8460750686780543692008-10-22T15:10:00.000+11:002008-10-22T15:10:00.000+11:00Sending you big hugs Therese & lots of healing...Sending you big hugs Therese & lots of healing light.<BR/>xojinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03272996941412810621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18214889.post-1389226846157594292008-10-22T08:49:00.000+11:002008-10-22T08:49:00.000+11:00Therese, be kind to yourself. There is no time fr...Therese, be kind to yourself. There is no time frame with grief,where the time comes that you are "all better". I found that after losing Sarah, it was easier to go with the flow on bad days and just let the grieving happen. You do not "get over" losing a loved one, in time you learn to live with the grief somehow, and it becomes part of the fabric of your life. After 14 years I still have those raw moments, where the sobs come from deep within, from a pain so unimaginable that you dare not take it out to look at it.<BR/>I support your quest to find out what that hospital thought it was doing in their treatment of Don. <BR/>For me writing is therapy in a way. Keep us informed on the progress of your quest.FoxyMoronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13540367675466917677noreply@blogger.com